Judge-no more

 If as a friend you find yourself in the habit of criticizing, questioning, suggesting, fixing, or trying to change your friend, you’ll likely see a dynamic that plays out in your friendship where your friend won’t feel like they can be themselves around you.They're there for the moments you just want to let your hair loose, knowing someone will be there to hold it up for you later, and everything else in-between.

In turn, they may start to measure their words, withhold information, or withdraw, and will subsequently feel silenced, resentful, or will begin to pull away.

Manuela Schmitten, psychologist at Inner Space Psychology, suggests looking inward at your own life experiences. Have you personally experienced pain or frustration as a result of similar actions? For example, if your friend is involved with a married person and you’ve been affected by cheating in the past, this may explain why you’re feeling hurt.These friendships give as much as they take. You can vent as much as you want because you know they really care to listen, and it’s a judgment-free zone.

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